Life gets busy. Even when we think we will have extra time, it slips away. We do the day to day things, and before we know it, the day is gone. The next day, the cycle begins again.
We assume that how things are going is just how things go. Expanding our world and personal growth become an afterthought.
Several years ago, that cycle was interrupted for me. I had a realization that empowered me and created hope.
The awakening was two-fold:
- What we are doing is not working
- I think we can do better
At first, these principles spoke to me regarding my son’s developmental challenges. I decided to approach my son’s health from a different angle. We would no longer be re-actively trying to help what was already in motion- trying to catch a runaway train.
Have you lived like this? In the shadows of a tough day, there looms the larger shadow of what the next day might bring… It is exhausting and defeating.
I decided we would become proactive. Knowing my son’s daily challenges, we would provide resources to him for stabilization and support all throughout the day.
Guess what? This approach worked better. The empowerment from knowing I could actually have a hand in the quality of my son’s life where I once felt helpless energized me.
This is the proactive approach.
The funny thing about the word proactive is that it sounds like it’s work- like you will be doing something big and new- requiring extra effort.
We don’t walk out into traffic- proactively protecting ourselves from harm.
We drink water- proactively fighting dehydration.
We make sure we wake up at the right time- proactively fulfilling the day’s responsibilities.
See? It’s not that big of a deal. It’s a mindset and pattern of behavior to which you are already committed.
So, the question is, if we expand the circle to consider other areas in which we can be proactive, what would get included?
What pops to mind when you read that?
Eat better? Sleep more? More quality time with loved ones? More quiet time for yourself?
Once I saw the positive changes in my son’s functioning from everything to focus, calming of anxious thoughts and behaviors, to more sound and restful sleep, I wanted the same thing for myself. Like many of you, I am sure, I was so focused on the needs of my family, I was at the bottom of the list. SO, I had to be willing to expand my thinking to:
- Acknowledge the need
- Understand sacrificing my well-being takes away from my ability to be of service to others
- Affirm the belief that I deserve a better quality of life
Once you can do those things, reclaiming mental territory for yourself becomes easier whether you are seeking to improve your mental, physical, or emotional health.
A paradigm shift often feels obvious when we look back on it in hindsight. “Why didn’t I realize this before?” “Why did this take me so long?” Be mindful to not beat yourself up over time that has passed. It served its purpose to lead you where you needed to be. Simple as that.
Once my son and I were both on a better road emotionally and physically, I was compelled to begin sharing our story to help others. Check that out here. If you are wanting physical and emotional support from natural products for yourself, it would be my pleasure to help. Read more on that here.
Psalm 36:9 tells us, “For the fountain of life is with You; in Your light we see light.” God is the giver of all good things. His light reveals that we are His creation- His children.
Stop feeling guilty for wanting to take care of yourself. That is a tool of the enemy that needs to be rejected.
Your well-being does not have to be a runaway train. If this is hard for you, pray for help to make yourself a priority. I am praying for everyone who reads this. Know that God hears us and will help you. He wants more for you and will help you believe that, too.