A gifted teacher named Eddie Villa posed three questions in a talk I heard a while back. They are still with me.
What do you want?
Why does it matter?
What happens if I don’t do what is required to get what I want?
Can you answer those questions?
I have written before about how hard it is to answer what I want. My first instinct is to think about what I want in relation to others: my children to be safe and healthy, etc.
But, to answer that for myself, and me alone, took some time. After being in and out of the workforce and homeschooling my son and trying to keep all the things in the air, I realized I had lost touch with me.
How can I answer what I want if I am not even in touch with my original self? When your life becomes so centered around others that your intuition and the voice of God get muffled and then inaudible altogether, you are lost.
This past year, I have been on a journey to reconnect those very important elements.
I took a test and began studying.
Normally, things go in the opposite order. First, you study. Then, you take the test. Not in this case.
The test I took was Gallup StrengthsFinder. It was developed over decades to help people understand their unique and innate talent make-up. There is no preparatory work with this. You take the test and answer with your first gut instinct.
Once you have your report, the unraveling process of the doubts, hesitation, and fear that have railroaded your life can begin.
Would you believe the odds of someone having the same exact report as you is one in over 131 billion. That’s more people than have ever lived.
Do you believe that about yourself? Do you want to believe that about yourself?
Learning to better understand my God-given strengths was important before I could begin operating in them and shedding the years of negative belief patterns and lies I had accepted about myself- how I wasn’t good enough, or I was too much, or not enough.
This process is beyond liberating. It reconnects dots that have long since been disassociated and the best part is that you start to ring true to yourself- walking in purpose how God designed you, living out your purpose.
Once the shift begins to take place, what you want becomes pretty clear. It doesn’t feel selfish at all. It feels purposeful.
From there, you can ask yourself the following questions: Why does it matter? What happens if I don’t do what is required to get what I want?
Would you like to know your God-given strengths? Here is a link to take the test. It’s a $49 investment in yourself. It’s not a personality test. It is a talent assessment that points you in the direction to results in your personal and professional life.
Once you have the report, you will need support, like I did. Eddie Villa, the man who asked the 3 questions I referenced has written a book to help folks understand their report and begin living in their strengths. Here’s a link to his audiobook that will help you process all the information that you will receive-and more importantly, put it into action! The book is $15, a small price to pay for the insight to gain.
Enough time has passed with us not living authentically as God designed. How much better would the world get along if we could recognize and respect our differences? What would it feel like to hear your intuition loud and clear knowing you are moving through the world on your one of a kind, God-given path? We only have so much time to fulfill our purpose, let’s make the most of it.
Consider this passage from Ephesians 5:16-17 as you consider the answers to those three questions:
“So then, be careful how you walk, not as unwise people but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.”