The Memories We Choose to Keep…

“There’s no earthly way of knowing, which direction we are going…”

Name that movie!

Did you guess?

It’s the creepy boat ride through the tunnel song from Willy Wonka that terrifies adults and kids to this day. My family prefers the 1971 version with Gene Wilder. The retro vibe adds to the creep factor. If you don’t know it, you may not want to…

We went to the mountains recently. Without fail, at each tunnel entrance, Henry would start this haunting tune and continue for the duration of the tunnel. The chilling shriek from the song’s end would greet the light of day as we emerged.

You would think this would get old, but honestly, it just got funnier each time.

It occurred to me that moving forward, we will always remember Henry singing the creepy boat song when we go through tunnels. Isn’t that how memories are made? Experiences meld with emotions and they become part of the memory bank.

Other things happened this weekend as well, but will those memories be able to top the tunnel singing?

How do you filter your memories? What determines what sticks?

Is it the happy memories? The funny memories? The aggravating memories?

What become the stories that we tell over and over again until those who weren’t even there feel like they were?

Was this the weekend we saw the prettiest fall colors we’ve ever seen up in the mountains?

Was this the weekend Henry would not leave a dog alone that someone had brought to the food event and we had to leave early?

Was this the weekend I overshot what I thought Henry was capable of managing in terms of over-stimulation, and I felt that familiar and heavy blanket of defeat and failure?

Or, was it the weekend Henry sang the Willy Wonka song over and over each time we went though a tunnel?

How do you filter life and memories?

I have found that where I allow my mind to dwell becomes the foundation from which experiences become memories. Am I focusing on how I felt like a failure? Am I focusing on the joy we had as a family together? One becomes a vortex of shame and angst while the other becomes a fountain of joy.

I’m going with the tunnel singing.

The Bible tells us in Isaiah 26:3, “the steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, because he trusts in You.”

These are words of truth. They can keep us grounded and focused on where we need to be and what is best for us for the moment and the long haul. Keeping an eternal perspective keeps us above the fray and affirms our faith that we are not on our own.

I pray these words are an encouragement to you to be steadfast in the faith that God is for you and calling you to peace in the everyday, the special moments, and the memories you choose to hold close.

When you think things are going great…

Wow, Henry is really focused today on his work. He’s being so still and quiet. What a great mom he has! She must really be on top of life (smirk, smirk).

True confession- I was very proud of myself as a virtual school parent recently, but it didn’t last long.

Henry was folding paperclips into hooks- not at all engaged in his lesson.

At first, I saw wasted paper clips and snatched them away. Then I realized this was fine motor practice- OT skills for the win!

It was also Christmas crafting- nativity shepherd crooks, anyone?

Christmas ornament hooks- why, yes, indeed!

Those little handles to dye Easter eggs that never work, possibly?

Glass half full, glass half empty, right?

So, what has happened to you when you thought things were going great and they weren’t at all on track?

How did you respond?

There is humor in the everyday when we can create space for ourselves to regain perspective.

Does this mean to not take life seriously? Of course not.

I’m talking about not being carried away in a moment where perspective goes out the window.

Because Henry’s development has not followed the usual pattern of childhood development, I am having to constantly check my thoughts when I work with him. I ask myself big questions to re-anchor my heart and mind. I ask, “How does this affect his soul?” “Will this matter down the road?” “What can I learn about Henry from this experience?” “What has my response taught me about myself?” “How can things like this go better in the future?”

I have lived too long being subject to the whims of unchecked emotions. I want to be different. I want to be rooted and strong- not just for my children, but for myself.

So, what does that come down to?

Choices, choices, choices….

My daughter recently told me my “Choices” lecture did not have any effect on her because she had heard it too many times. Guess what I said in response?

You got it!

She was CHOOSING to be closed off to my message and she needed to CHOOSE to be open to some self-reflection. She loved it.

To keep our mind and heart in check when we discover things are not going as we thought, we have to choose to remember who we are. We have to remember the words of 2 Timothy 1:7, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound judgement”.

Inhale. Exhale. Always remember who you are.

What big questions do you ask yourself to regain perspective? I would love to know.

When the bottom falls out…

The bottom of our planter box fell out. Literally, fell out!

We had no warning signs. But then again, who looks at the UNDERSIDE of a planter box? We didn’t.

The interesting part is that instead of being upset or frustrated, I was mesmerized. As I stared at it, I realized what an incredible metaphor had just been realized on our side porch.

Maybe the bottom of your planter has fallen out before- so to speak.

Maybe it has fallen out recently.

Many folks are considering the entirety of 2020 as one big planter box fiasco.

Maybe the bottom fell out for you a long time ago.

The bottom of my planter box has fallen out several times in my life. It’s the ones that we don’t see coming that are the most jarring to our foundation.

Who? What? When? Where? How? Why?

Why me? Why now? What did I do?

If I had been more vigilant… If I had prayed more… If I had been more patient/loving/wise/all the good and right things, this would not have happened… Right?

When the things we count on fail, we have a choice. Do we take on the role of victim or do we choose to see the event as an opportunity for a new perspective, reality, and experience?

Perspective is an important concept to me. I always want to understand the different elements at play so that I can learn what I need to learn.

I do not believe in coincidences. If I am a part of something, I believe there is a purpose and lesson for me to absorb and then share.

I heard a leader say once that we are responsible to share with the world the lessons we have earned. No one cares what we have learned. They care that we have walked through an experience to the other side wiser and willing to be vulnerable to share that wisdom.

Starting this blog is one way that I have chosen to make myself vulnerable. While we all have our journeys and voices, this is my journey and this is my voice.

Are you sharing the lessons you have earned with the world? I want to hear your story. I want to learn from you.

Don’t be afraid of what people may say or think. Someone needs to hear from you. Your experiences and willingness to share may be just the thing some people are waiting to hear to point them in the right direction, or away from the wrong direction. I may be one of those people waiting to hear your message.

We all have jobs to do with the time given to us. The enemy would love nothing more than for us to be distracted and get off track in our life’s work when our planter boxes fall apart.

Do not allow yourself to live in discouragement. This is not our true home. We look to the world ahead. Our hope is beyond this world of planter boxes that rot and give way.

In the meantime, share your story and be a source of light to the world. Jesus tells us in Matthew 5, the great Sermon on the Mount, to “let your light shine before all men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

I am praying right now that the readers of this essay know they are not alone and that God is for them. The tough times may seem like the worst possible time to consider letting your light shine, but it is in these moments that transformation begins and the doors of healing and opportunity begin to open.

If you are in need of prayer, reach out to me. It would be my pleasure to support you in this way. Thank you for spending time with me.

The easiest way to find out is to ask…

“What do you need?”

This question can be a first step toward empowering kids to take ownership of their emotions, BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, take ownership of the solution!

I am working hard to break the habit of assuming I know what my son needs every second of every moment. With all the togetherness of virtual learning, the emotions and energy in the room can be misleading.

For years, as his speech abilities were developing, I served as Henry’s interpreter to the world. People would look at Henry, then automatically look at me to understand. Knowing Henry so well, it was not long before I began answering for Henry- jumping in before he would fully answer.

Henry needs me to love him, support him, guide him, and provide for him. He doesn’t need me to think for him or answer for him.

I would love to think I could read Henry’s mind, but I cannot. As Henry’s mother, my intuition is strong when it comes to his well-being, but it does not grant me the right to take his voice.

Teaching children skills takes time. It is no different with teaching and modeling emotionally healthy behavior and language. The trick is to be patient and give our children space to think, evaluate, and respond.

I have to learn this lesson over and over every day. Why are we in such a hurry? Surely it is not just me.

Do you also jump in and respond for your children without asking them first?

How will Henry ever learn to advocate for himself if I don’t BACK OFF and respect his person-hood enough to let him tell me what he is experiencing and what he needs?

Helping children identify their emotions and then when and how to ask for help sets them up for healthy emotional self-care in their future.

Since we now use natural options to support our physical and emotional health, I greatly appreciate how dōTERRA intuitively named their children’s blends. This line has been an incredibly helpful tool for us. The labels very clearly identify the emotional benefits such as Brave: the Courage blend and Steady: the Grounding blend. Henry can look at the labels and select what he needs in the moment.

When I allow him the opportunity to choose for himself, it builds confidence and gives him a tangible example on which to draw for future self-direction.

I am learning to give Henry space to grow into himself and he is learning to identify and meet his emotional needs.

In the Bible, James 1:19 instructs us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. When I am not quick to listen to Henry or demonstrate patience before speaking, I usually end up angry!

Friends, it does not have to be so hard. Maybe reading this today has resonated with you and you are ready to approach parenting or other relationships with a slightly new perspective.

I am with you at every step in this journey. Together, we can make progress that will be empowering to others, and in the process, empower ourselves in our own growth.

Inhale. Exhale. Know that God loves you and is with you.

Targeted Support at a Savings

Don’t you love when a company comes out with things that show they have some sense? That they are actually paying attention to what their customers want and need AND what will provide the most value?

Friends, there is a new way to save $$$ on products that support immunity, relief, and mind & mood health goals. If you are already purchasing these types of items, this is what you have been waiting for!

If you want to pursue these health goals, this is wonderful and money-saving news! There is no need to be overwhelmed by so many product choices. These kits have been specifically designed to offer the most effective products with targeted support.

Customers may choose one, two, or all three categories and enjoy receiving a different package each month for 3 months supporting those particular goals.

Month #1 for the Immunity kit highlights the On Guard family of products. This blend of pure oils supports healthy immune function in addition to having wonderful cleansing properties. This set includes On Guard protective blend oil, Wild Orange oil, Purify cleansing blend oil, On Guard toothpaste, On Guard floss, On Guard sanitizing mist, On Guard hand wash, a hand wash dispenser, and a neoprene bag.

Month #1 for the Relief kit highlights the supportive properties from the Deep Blue family of products. This blend provides a natural means of relief for bodily discomfort. The first month in this group contains Deep Blue polyphenol complex capsules, Deep Blue rub packets, Deep Blue soothing blend oil, AromaTouch massage blend, a massage ball, and a neoprene bag.

Month #1 for the Mind & Mood kit highlights various products that provide support in handling the demands of daily life. Both the Adaptiv and Balance blends utilize the calming and grounding properties available from nature. This kit includes Adaptiv calming blend roller, Adaptiv calming blend capsules, Balance grounding blend oil, Balance deodorant, and a neoprene bag.

As a bonus, additional products are available as add-on purchases at 20% off the regular wholesale price. Double savings!

Each kit is $75. To participate in this wellness program, customers must have a wholesale account and order through their LRP cart- which means points for FREE products will be earned with this purchase AND shipping will be refunded as points. BONUS again! Click here to learn more about getting started.

Keeping it Simple with Simple Solutions…

Plant-based health options are safe, effective, and affordable. The Simple Solutions starter set covers the main bases of health support and reducing toxic load in the home. With 250 drops per bottle, your $105 investment will provide you with a multitude of uses both personally and for your home.

Lemon is the top selling oil for its wide variety of benefits and uses. Lemon’s uplifting and invigorating aroma promotes a positive boost to the atmosphere. It provides non-toxic cleansing for both the air and surfaces. Lemon in your water can support digestion and respiratory function. It can even be used for cooking!

On Guard is the immune support blend. The aroma is energizing. It provides support for the immune system and healthy respiratory function. Wild orange, rosemary, clove, cinnamon, and eucalyptus are combined to protect against environmental and seasonal threats and to support the body’s natural antioxidant response. Also cleansing for the air and surfaces, this blend can be used as a non-toxic cleaner for your entire house.

Serenity’s calming and pleasing aroma comes from a blend of floral, tree, and root essential oils. This combination provides a relaxing atmosphere that supports a restful night of sleep. Serenity can also promote calming for anxious thoughts for day or night. Spray Serenity on your bedding, add to lotion, and apply at pulse points for maximum benefit.

Deep Blue Rub is a non-greasy and moisturizing blend of essential oils and natural plant extracts that provide cooling and soothing comfort to areas of concern. A powerful combination of mint and floral oils make this blend a favorite for massage and working out. This is the perfect addition to your bathroom cabinet and gym bag.

The $35 wholesale membership fee is waived with this kit which gives you 25% off retail on your purchases for a year. There are no monthly commitments- buy what you want, when you want.

This collection of items opens the door not just to natural solutions for physical and emotional support, but savings on future purchases, continuing education on your products, and a community of like-minded folks also pursuing the path of wellness.

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I look forward to working with you. Cheers to proactive health!

When you’re ready for a change…

If you are ready for a new way to support your health, $55 will open the door to multi-purpose plant-based alternatives, a wholesale membership of 25% off retail prices, one one one consultations, and a community of like-minded folks also ready for a change.

This introductory set from doTERRA is a combination of Lemon, Lavender, and Peppermint. These three oils are effective by themselves and in combination with each other for a wealth of options when it comes to supporting various body systems and reducing toxic load in the home.

Lemon is the queen of cleansing, both for the body and home. Lemon will remove odors and act as a degreasing agent. Lemon creates a positive and uplifting aroma while cleansing both air and surfaces. Lemon can also promote respiratory function and aid in digestion.

Lavender is not just for a relaxing soak in the tub. Add lavender to your bedding to promote a restful night of sleep. Lavender will also help promote healthy looking hair and nails, as well as, soothe occasional skin irritations. Lavender is useful for promoting feelings of calming and grounding during times of anxious thoughts and relieving of minor pain.

Peppermint is not just for candy. When you open a bottle of peppermint, you will know right away that you have a strong ally on your side. Use peppermint when you need energizing, help with focus, and relieving occasional nausea and heartburn. Peppermint is a natural coolant to the body when feeling overheated, as well as, relieving of head tension or body aches and sore muscles. Peppermint will provide support for feelings of clear airways and easy breathing. On top of all that, peppermint is a natural bug repellent.

When combined together, these three oils provide support against seasonal and environmental threats. And that’s just the beginning! There’s a lot more to learn.

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You don’t have to do this alone. Join with me and I will help you get the most out of your new products as you work toward reaching your health goals.

“Mom, is Corona gone?”

“Mom, is Corona gone?”

These sad words were Henry’s first words after opening his eyes when I went to get him up for the day.

We know kids are resilient. We know this won’t last forever. We press forward with the thought that we can endure anything knowing an end is coming.

But this is the perspective of an adult.

Every day is an eternity to Henry. Every day is highlighted by his connection to others. He does not wake up each day to accomplish the tasks on our to-do list. He wakes up each day with the desire to live fully, use his imagination, and spend time with others.

Upon the advent of schools moving to virtual learning, everyone’s to-do list has been altered. It did not affect just the adults needing to go to work and run the necessary errands to govern a household. There is a deeper current at work. Children have had to grieve lost connections and experiences that cannot be regained.

With Henry not being of the age to graduate high school or move off to college, his life does not seem to have changed all that much to me. That is not his experience.

I am guilty of not recognizing and validating Henry’s feelings of loss. His innocent question provided clarity to this sin of omission.

That brief moment in time shifted my paradigm for understanding his experience. I am changed because of it. My to-do list will look different because of it.

We cannot get caught in the trap of just getting through the day.

My boy needs extra time to connect, to snuggle, and to be seen- not simply managed until this crisis is over.

Our challenges make us who we are for what we need to do. I believe there is a design and purpose to our existence and to which time and place in history we are born. There are lessons for us during this time. I don’t want to miss them because I am preoccupied with getting things done.

The price of busy-ness is high- broken connections and missed opportunities.

In a world where we do not know if school will be back to normal anytime soon, or when we will not hesitate to shake a hand or hug a neck, there are some things that will never change. There are things on which we can always count.

This certainty is the legacy I want my children to inherit. I cannot guarantee them what we used to consider a normal childhood with the usual childhood experiences, but they will know their Heavenly Father loves them and is with them through every step, every misstep, every joy, and every disappointment.

In each season of life, each challenge we encounter, and each time we have to rework our to-do list, let’s remember these words from Joshua 1:9:

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

The day I got a certificate at the dentist…

The following is a true story. You can see from the picture above that I received this certificate on April 30, 2018. That was not yesterday. I kept this certificate because I need the reminder and the visual that I am not failing as a a parent.

Where shall I begin in describing exactly what happened on this particular visit? For a child prone to hyperactivity and sensory issues, going to the dentist is a disastrous tale of woe that writes itself.

How about having to lay still while strangers get close to you and ask you questions with their fingers in your mouth? How about the buzzing and whirring and squirting instruments right beside your head and inside your mouth? How about the x-ray machines that get close to your head and even rotate around your head while vibrating and beeping?

There were tears. There were threats. There were visits to the bathroom. There were demonstrations by mom, sister, and office staff. There were rewards promised and taken away. There were collapses on the floor. All shame went out the window. All social awareness went out the window.

There were no x-rays taken this day.

Is there anything more humbling than parenting? Little creatures you love and nurture completely turn on you in the worst possible moments.

Maybe this happened to you? Maybe this is currently happening to you? Take comfort knowing you are not alone. Children have challenged their parents from the very beginning. Sometimes the challenge is intentional to assert their own authority and sometimes the challenge is beyond their control due to developmental and neurological issues exacerbated when life becomes especially frustrating. Sometimes it is a combination.

The struggles do not begin and end at the dentist. The struggles are every day and come at all points during the day. They change with each new stage of life.

Is there anyone in your corner encouraging you? If not, plug me in. I am the sympathetic staff member at the dentist watching you from across the room and smiling to give you strength.

If I knew your address, I would mail you a certificate.

You will be okay. You will get through this. You are not alone. This season of life will not last forever. It will be replaced by another with new challenges. That may be unwelcome news, but it is the truth. We have to tell ourselves the truth. What matters is our outlook, our perspective, and our heart.

The work of parenting is not deemed successful by how current our children are on their dental x-rays.

Does your child know you are not just their rock, but their soft place to fall? Does your child know this world is not all there is? These thoughts and questions help me stay grounded on the tough days.

Let’s consider some words of encouragement from our Heavenly Father:

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

I’m in! What are my options?

What health issues are most important to you? Do you want more energy? Do you want to get better sleep? Do you want support for an ongoing issue? Do you need emotional support?

All of the above?

The answer to these questions will determine your starting point.

Customers have three options when purchasing doTERRA products:

  • Retail customers purchase directly from the website with no discount. This is the most expensive way to buy.
  • Wholesale memberships are available for $35 which give customers 25% off retail for an entire year to buy as much or as little as they like- no obligations or quotas.
  • The third and best value is to purchase an enrollment kit which comes at a below wholesale value along with waiving the $35 membership fee. DoTERRA’s enrollment kits are collections of the most versatile oils and products.

An enrollment kit is the quickest way to overhaul your medicine cabinet and the best value for your money.

Kits are not mandatory. Customers may select individual items as retail or wholesale purchases, but kits will provide the most options and the best savings. The choice is yours!

So, which kit aligns with your goals?

Simple Solutions will get you off to a great start and cover many bases.

The Simple Solutions kit is $105 wholesale. This grouping provides support for the immune system, emotional well-being, calming, rest, aches and pains, digestive issues, purifying, and cleansing.

Healthy Start provides options at your fingertips for anything that comes up at home.

The Healthy Start kit is $160 wholesale and comes with the top 10 most versatile oils and a diffuser. The bottles are 5mL which contain 80 drops of oil. This kit will allow you to handle almost any situation that should arise at home.

Healthy Essentials provides multiple options for multiple issues at a deep discount.

The Healthy Essentials kit is $249 and comes with a diffuser and 15mL bottles, containing 250 drops of oil, with the exception of Deep Blue which comes in 5mL. That is over twice the product as the Healthy Start kit, but not twice the price! This collection is similar to the Healthy Start kit oils, but with a few exceptions for different oils that provide anti-inflammatory and mental well-being support.

Healthy Habits provides an overhaul of your nutrition support along with oils that cover a number of issues.

The Healthy Habits kit is $195 wholesale and comes with 5 versatile oils, Lifelong Vitality (supplement trio of whole foods, omega oils, and antioxidant), digestive enzymes, probiotic, and Deep Blue cream for aches/pains.

Healthy Home gets you on track to reducing your toxic load at home with toxin-free personal care products, along with the top 10 most versatile oils.

The Healthy Home kit is $350 wholesale and comes with the top 10 oils, a diffuser, and toxin-free personal care products including shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste, cleaner concentrate, hand soap, hand soap dispenser, and sanitizing hand mist.

Natural Solutions is your complete home wellness makeover and the best savings.

The Natural Solutions kit is $560 and provides the most extensive collection of toxin-free personal care issues, the top 10 most versatile oils, and a diffuser.

Will I need anything with my products?

To make your oils last longer, you will want to purchase some roller bottles, fractionated coconut oil for dilution, and a pump top.

Overwhelmed?????

If you need help figuring out the best options for you, don’t hesitate to reach out. I will help you find the best products for you at the best price.

Ready to purchase?

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